How Parents Can Help The LGBT Youth And Their Mental Health

September 29, 2020 Uncategorized 0

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One fear that many of the LGBT youth have is coming out to their parents. Even when they’re older, teens still want their parents to accept and love them. Worrying over how their parents react to their gender identity and preferences puts a toll on their mental well-being.

As parents, we must know how to show our children that we support them no matter what. Here are tips on how you can help ease their mind and show them the love they deserve.

Tell Them That You Love Them

The first thing you should do is to reassure them of the love you have. We often hear that parents should love their kids unconditionally, and that includes their sexual orientation. Let them know that you’re there for them no matter who they are attracted to or who they love.

Something as seemingly simple as being present can mean a lot to today’s youth. Parents can be an anchor to their kids, and those with supportive parents are more likely to grow into happier adults.

 Educate Yourself

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When it comes to the LGBT, people can have a lot of misconceptions. To show support for your children, it’s best to educate yourself on gender and sexual orientation. It’s a lot easier now, given the endless resources we have available through different mediums. You can go to a bookstore to check for books, search online, and watch informative videos.

The basics you should learn about are the different aspects of gender and the terms people use: 

Sex is the biological attributes a person has at birth. This concept is separate and different from one’s gender.

Gender identity is an individual’s sense of self, whether they identify as female, male, neither, or both. A person may be born male (sex) but identify as female (gender identity).

Gender expression is how they wish to convey themselves. A female may identify as such but have mannerisms, clothing choices, and interests that may be traditionally masculine. Lastly, sexual orientation refers to who they find themselves attracted to if any.

Also, watch out for common misconstructions when it comes to these topics. For one, their sense of self is not a “phase.” Gender is fluid. Their gender identity and preferences may change over time as they get to understand themselves better. However, tagging, such as a “phase,” seems dismissive and undermines the importance of gender identity and sexuality.

By educating yourself on gender and the LGBT, you show support for your kids. When adolescents see that their parents are committed to learning more about who they are, they feel more reassured. It saves them a lot of mental stress when they feel like they’re not alone on the journey to understanding themselves.

 Encourage Discussions

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The most challenging thing for a parent is getting your kids to open up. Such is especially true in their teen and adolescent years. Even if you look back to when you were young, it was likely difficult to tell your parents about certain things in your life.

The best way to encourage dialogues between you and your teen is to build trust. Show them that your home equals a safe space, and they can come to you for personal and sensitive matters. Don’t be discouraged if they seem closed off at first.

Once you establish the kind of relationship you want between you and your kids, they’ll come to see it as well. Start small by asking about their day and their friends. Make sure you appear encouraging and supportive.

Over time, you can begin to talk about other topics. They may still hesitate to start an exchange on their gender, so you may have to initiate at times.

You can bring up characters from movies or shows you watch together or some of their other friends. “This character has dated both guys and girls. That kind of stuff is okay with me. What do you think?” It may seem awkward, but you may have to take that starting step for the both of you as an adult.

 Summary

Self-discovery is a journey for everyone, but it can be especially challenging for the LGBT youth. As parents, we can play a large role in helping our children out with such.

Being supportive, open, and educated about gender and sexual orientation can take a huge mental weight off your teen’s shoulders. There’s so much we can do for them to help them lessen the stress and toll on their mental well-being.

First, always assure them that you accept and love them no matter their gender identity, expression, or orientation.

Next, find resources and educate yourself on the different aspects of gender and the LGBT. Stay updated on news and government policies that could push for equality and compassion or pose a threat.

Lastly, encourage open dialogues between you and your adolescents. Stay present in their lives and look out for them. We all want the best and the most for our kids. Accepting them is one of the most vital things we should do as parents.

 

The Family We Choose: Finding Comfort In LGBTQ Support Channels During The Pandemic

August 3, 2020 Uncategorized 0

As most of the world remains sheltered at home, LGBTQ youth are arguably among the more vulnerable segments of the population to the prolonged quarantine period.

Cut off from the support networks they formed outside of the home and forced back into space they may not consider safe, it is not surprising that there have been incidences of increased stress and anxiety among the LGBTQ youth. 

The LGBTQ Youth During The Pandemic

A nonprofit organization for LGBTQ youth released a report in April 2020 outlining the severe ramifications of COVID-19 on the mental well-being of the demographic. 

According to a study, even before the pandemic hit, LGBTQ youth already faced significant risk for depression, anxiety, substance use, and suicidality. With schools and other communal spaces closed, the pandemic has made LGBTQ youth all the more vulnerable to the mental toll since access to positive social interactions diminishes while negative social interactions rise.

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What do we mean by this? Although the experience is certainly not universal, a number of LGBTQ youth have been experiencing a lack of support from networks they formed in school or their communities as they take refuge in what may be an unsupportive environment at home. 

Research suggests that only a third of LGBTQ youth experience parental acceptance of their sexual orientation and gender identity. In the LGBTQ population, one-third experiences parental rejection while the remaining one-third opts to stay quiet about their identity until they are adults.

LGBTQ youth also report higher rates of sexual, psychological, and physical abuse compared to their straight or cisgender peers, and intimate partner violence is even more pronounced in the LGBTQ community, according to a study, pointing to the serious threat of some confined environments. 

The quarantine protocol ordering people to stay at home is threatening for the LGBTQ youth with unsupportive families. To be in an environment where they feel invalidated and unsafe, for a long time, may cause them to feel isolated from others.

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Additionally, the unpredictability of the pandemic may feel like an endless tribulation for them. Up to this point, it’s still unsure as to when this pandemic will end. The members of the LGBT youth also feel terrified that their families might find out. 

It is undoubtedly a painful and lonely experience for LGBTQ youth who can are prone to self-destructive actions without the support and medical assistance they need to get through this health crisis.  Fortunately, there are several available resources and support groups to help one get through the other side of this crisis in a stable mental place.

Connect With An Online Community

For LGBTQ youth, one’s chosen family sometimes plays a more significant role than one’s biological family. Forging and maintaining positive social connections outside of the home are healthy ways to ease the mental pressures of the pandemic. 

The good news is there is no need to look far! Just as there are many shades in the rainbow, there are only as many LGBTQ groups on various social media platforms where young individuals can get the support, validation, and acceptance they need. There are state-based and community-based groups on Facebook that one can look up to air concerns, unload, and feel a sense of belonging.

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Beyond online support groups, LGBTQ youth can cope with pandemic-induced stress and anxiety partially brought about by cabin fever in many ways. 

  • Avoid a judgemental attitude.
  • Secure strong connections with supportive individuals.
  • Go on a digital detox.
  • Create a schedule of daily activities.
  • Read reliable sources to understand your rights further.
  • Do projects that keep your nerves calm.
  • Step out once in a while for a dose of fresh air.
  • Feel free to seek help.

Getting The Help You Need

As the pandemic takes its toll, health providers have accelerated the shift online through telehealth services. LGBTQ youth experiencing anxiety can reach out to various telehealth providers through video calls, messaging apps, and hotlines. For instance, they offer 24/7 support to LGBTQ youth in crisis through text and chat. 

When worst comes to worst, there are specific organizations that offer shelter services for LGBTQ youth seeking refuge. Ali Forney Center in New York is one such organization providing housing and support services to LGBTQ youth aged 16-24.  

Moving Forward 

As the COVID-19 crisis continues to unfold, there is a need to strengthen social bonds while keeping apart. Being one of the more vulnerable demographics even before the pandemic took hold, the LGBTQ youth need all the help and support they need to get through and beyond this crisis.

When homes are not the safe spaces they ought to be, communities should step up and fill the gap. Only then can we build back better.

 

 

How To Deal With Homophobic Parents While Isolating Together

June 25, 2020 Counseling 0

I came out to my parents in the second week of March 2020. I decided to do it after figuring out that I am bisexual. To be honest, I am in a relationship with a man right now, which I feel very proud of. But I did not want to deceive my loving mom and dad, so I flew home to tell them the truth about my identity.

When I finally sat down with my folks, I was not surprised to hear their objections. Mom asked, “Are you sure? Is this not a mere phase that you might outgrow? What would we tell our relatives and friends?” Those questions, I could handle. My mother lived in the suburbs all her life, so she was accustomed to making sure that our family was always picture-perfect.

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However, it hurt me deeply when Dad said, “You must be sick.” I knew that he was old-school, that he had not embraced open-mindedness yet. I merely hoped that my father would be more supportive than this, considering I had been a filial son. Seeing him react this way made me want to fly back to the East Coast and cry in my boyfriend’s arms. Still, when Mom encouraged me to stay longer, I agreed to leave on the third day, even though it was evident that this visit would be very awkward.

Unfortunately, before day #3 came, the strict quarantine policy was issued at the state where my parents lived. The local government unit did not allow land or air transportation to and fro; if anyone insisted on going in, they would have to do 14-day self-quarantine. Nevertheless, I might be sadder than those people because the regulation meant that I had to isolate with my homophobic parents for God knows how long.

It was not a walk in the park, but I dealt with the situation by:

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Not Engaging In Or Starting A Yelling Match

The first lesson that I remember Mom teaching me was that nothing good could come out of fighting. I took that advice to heart; that’s why I had no intention of starting or engaging in a yelling match with my parents.

Although they could not understand what I was going through (yet), I did not feel the need to hurl myself and get angry if they did not accept me. Instead, I tried to sound as diplomatic as possible while sharing how I accepted that I felt attraction towards both sexes. It was undoubtedly met with protests, but at least I did not fight fire with fire.

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Trying To Make Them See That Nothing Changed With Me In General

In the first few days of quarantine, I was genuinely sad because my mom and dad still refused to take my new identity seriously. However, after musing about it and consulting some friends in the gay community, I realized that they might feel scared of losing their son once they accepted me.

This idea prompted me to start doing things that I used to do when we thought that I was heterosexual. I mowed the lawn, fixed Dad’s car, watched sports shows, and did other things that we used to enjoy—all for the sake of making Mom and Dad see that not much would change despite my revelation.

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Final Thoughts

The strict quarantine order has been lifted not too long ago, and I am already back in my New York apartment. When I left my parents’ home, the situation remained unreadable. They hugged me goodbye, yes, but they did not mention anything about my bisexuality.

I guess I still had it easy compared to other people who came out to their loved ones. All I can do now is to pray for my parents to accept me soon.

How You Can Celebrate Pride While In Isolation

May 21, 2020 LGBT News LGBT Online Support 0

The 2019 Rainbow Festival was once a colorful time of the year, with colors lining up our streets. However, the recent coronavirus outbreak has caused organizers to cancel or suspend this year’s scheduled events indefinitely.

With Pride Month approaching, what can we do now to celebrate while most of us are still isolated? Even though we’re physically apart, we can always show our support. Here are some ideas.

Global Pride

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Despite canceling scheduled events, InterPride and the European Pride Organizers Association have spearheaded Global Pride. The two groups are working with other LGBTQ organizations to hold activities through online platforms. Scheduling it for June 27, 2020, InterPride compares the new event to broadcasts of New Year’s Eve.

What do they have lined up for us? You can expect musical performances, political speakers, and celebrity appearances. Participants will also be able to share at-home videos. To top it all off, they’ll be running a relief fund for LGBTQ communities. You’ll be providing aid to households, independent artists, community centers, and small businesses.

Get Crafty

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Pride has always been a place to showcase creativity and support within the community. As we stay at home, we have even more time to try out a DIY project.

We can celebrate Pride while in isolation through artistic means. If you’re looking for ideas, one of them is to try your hand at making a Pride flag. Find some spare cloth at home or repurpose old clothing to make a rainbow. Another is through practicing your abilities with makeup. It’s been the custom to share Pride-inspired looks on Instagram and Facebook the past years, and this time, it’s no different.

Watch LGBTQ-Focused Films

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Being stuck at home doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy a movie night with friends. Chrome extension Netflix party lets users watch movies together with other people. Similar websites can also do the same.

This upcoming Pride month, come stream LGBTQ-relevant films with the community. Some movie suggestions include Love, Simon (2018), Moonlight (2016), and The Half of It (2020).

Summary

Even COVID-19 can’t stop the LGBTQ community. Thanks to Pride groups’ initiative, we can still show our love and support while in isolation. Watch out for this year’s Global Pride, tap into your artistic side, and enjoy relevant films with friends. Through these small acts, Pride lives through each of us in our own homes.

How COVID-19 Affects Pride Celebration

May 6, 2020 Uncategorized 0
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June is practically like December for the members of the LGBTQ+ community. You see, this is the month when we celebrate Pride. We remember the colorful individuals who have given their lives the ensure that no one will get prosecuted again for being gay. In almost every major city around the globe, we come together and hold massive parades and concerts to celebrate, well, ourselves.

Every year, I join the New York parade with all my friends, whether they are members of the third sex or not. That’s the beauty of Pride—it welcomes everyone who wants to spread joy and love. You can wear whatever you want, dance however you want, and people will support you for it.

The month of June is still a month away at the time of writing this blog, but the entire world seems to be somewhat frozen. Only a few people can leave the house; even business owners cannot open their establishments unless they sell food and other essentials. Here’s what it means for the 2020 Pride celebration.

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The Bad News

When the actual Gay Pride rolls in, the quarantine regulations may have eased significantly by then. Various governors are already thinking of doing that in the coming weeks to keep the economy from crashing. Pharmaceutical companies are also close to starting their clinical trials for the new vaccines that may save people from COVID-19.

The problem, however, is that mass gathering may not be allowed until the end of the year or early next year. It is still too risky to insist on doing so, especially since no one can see the coronavirus. A person can transmit it to others unintentionally, and then another wave of pandemic takes place. Thus, there will be no parades in 2020 to celebrate Pride.

The Good News

Despite the lack of events on the streets, the gay community will undoubtedly not let a year pass without commemorating Pride in some way. What the leaders of different LGBT organizations have agreed on is to do everything online.

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On the 27th of June, they will be streaming musical numbers every hour. Some well-known members and supporters of the gay community will also be doing speeches in between performances. All the performers and guest speakers will be safe because they will perform in their own homes.

A unique thing about this occasion—aside from the fact that it occurs on the Stonewall anniversary—is that it will be a worldwide effort. The organizations in Oceania, North America, South America, Asia, Africa, and Europe are teaming up to make this 24-hour streaming possible. They even intend to feature performances from every participating country, which makes this celebration more united than ever.

The Consensus

Of course, no one feels happy about being unable to parade around the city. That’s what we have all been doing in the last 50 years. It is already part of the culture.

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However, we happen to know very well that prohibiting mass gatherings is for the greater good. As much as we want to party on the streets, we surely don’t want to test positive for COVID-19 a few days later. Especially in the United States, there are hundreds of thousands of infected people, and it may increase exponentially if we don’t follow the government’s orders.

Final Thoughts

It is indeed saddening to realize that the major cities around the world will not be filled with colors in June this year. Everyone will most likely be at home, watching the festivities in various countries, wishing that you can go there.

Still, we should all be glad that there is at least a streaming party on Pride Day. That’s the best we can do right now, given the current circumstances. Once the pandemic is over, though, I have every reason to believe that the next celebration will be bigger and brighter than you can ever imagine.

Making Pride Events Impactful On Society

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The 2017 LGBT Festival shines a light on the community’s plight against discrimination. In pure LGBT fashion, people celebrate Pride events with a unique and colorful flair with parades, celebrity live performances, and, of course, open bars. However fun and endearing it is to organize such events, we must not lose the bigger picture of it all. We should all go back to the question, “why are we doing this?”

Although acceptance of homosexuality has grown over the years, the LGBT community still gets the flak for their being. With the sheer number of people uneducated and unaware of the community’s fight for acceptance, events like this can stimulate discussion and present valuable information for LGBT acceptance.

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Educate Them With Pride History
A study from Pew Research uncovers that 48% of LGBT adults believe Pride events only help promote social acceptance by a little. Pride Events do hold significance in creating awareness. But aiming for social acceptance requires a confident and robust support system coming from the community themselves. The LGBT community carries a colorful past. Efforts, struggles, and years of advocacies led to how the Pride Empire is now. We should flaunt it, and say, “this is what we’ve gone through, and this is what we are today.” We should share this pride with our community.

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Be Open To Dialogue
The community and its alliances should include stimulating and enlightening discussions with people outside the community. There are strong-headed traditionalists we can educate, and there are still some iffy people we can inform. Pride events are avenues to start a dialogue with them. Admittedly, some people are timid to ask questions about topics seemingly foreign to them. Let’s take this opportunity by the reigns and openly invite these curious people to panel discussions. Such communication initiatives are encouraging as long as both parties put on respectful attitudes towards others’ opinions. The goal here is not necessarily to persuade to be on our side but to share our experiences why we choose to be here.

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Pride events are already loud celebrations of love and equality, but some people are not yet ready to hear it. Let’s not stop these nay-sayers from dampening our spirits. Instead, let’s celebrate and educate them at the same time. Pride education and dialogues help us strengthen our team and remain open for those who want to listen.

Why Gay Men Enter A Loving Relationship With Straight Women

December 6, 2019 LGBT News LGBT Online Support Sexual Help 0

 

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Whenever the story of a gay man falling in love with a straight woman becomes public, it always baffles people. They may ask, “Why will you go in that direction if you already announced your homosexuality?” Some even fear that the queer will eventually get tired of the relationship with his wife and look for another man.

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What Not To Do If Your Better Half Comes Out Of The Closet  

November 29, 2019 Counseling Health Advice 0

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Husbands and wives who want to be together for eternity do not let simple arguments become the cause of their split. They may yell at each other from time to time, yet they never go in for the kill, if you know what I mean. Nevertheless, there’s one deal-breaker that couples may not be able to get back from one of the partners comes out as a gay man or woman.

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Signs That You Are In A Relationship With A (Discreet) Gay Man

November 22, 2019 Counseling Gender Laws LGBT News 0

 

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If there is one thing that can scare guys at times, it is a woman’s intuition. It is rare for any juicy detail to get past you, especially if it involves your loved ones. Even when the other person remains in denial, and you do not have pre-existing knowledge of what you feel suspicious about, you tend to know somehow whether the man is lying or not.

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How To Make A Same-Sex Marriage Last

November 15, 2019 Sexual Help 0

 

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Isn’t it delightful to be in a serious gay relationship these days?

The world has become accustomed to the nonconformities that queer folks bring to life. Fewer people will frown or bat an eyelid if they see two guys holding hands on the streets. You do not need to pose as a heterosexual to either retain a job or receive a promotion. More importantly, a growing number of countries are legalizing same-sex marriage, so you may tie the knot with your long-term partner anytime – and almost anywhere – you wish.

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