April 29, 2019 Counseling 0

Did you know that the number of women who have complained about domestic violence has risen over the past few years? According to a recent study, this violence does not only exist in married couples but even in couples who are just living together or even in a dating phase. This statistics is quite alarming because it can have adverse effects on the victims involved. Psychology would tell us that a battered woman may suffer not only physical abuse arising from domestic violence but also emotional ones that can lead to mental health-related issues.


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“There are 3 million cases of domestic violence reported each year. Many more go unreported.”  Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT said. Because if this, we see it fit to discuss the different ways on how women like you can handle domestic violence. Whether you are a victim or not, it is essential for you to read these techniques to ensure that you can protect yourself at all times. Do not wait before it is too late to act on the situation. Here are the tips to keep in mind to make you better in handling this kind of violence:


Know Your Worth


The crucial thing that you must do is to determine your worth as a person. Do not let other people tell you who you are. Instead, show them how amazing you are as an individual. Never allow your partner to hurt you physically, emotionally or verbally. You need to be strong enough to fight back and show the other person that you will never back down no matter what happens. The moment you show to someone that you recognize your worth and that you have a high level of self-esteem; he will start to fear and respect you.


Ask For Police Help


Stop caring for someone who keeps on beating you and making you doubt about your worth as a person. The best thing to do when your spouse or boyfriend hurts you is to call the police authorities. Be sure to do it fast so that the suspect or offender can be apprehended as soon as possible. Do not think of the welfare of the assailant, especially if he will be placed into jail. Always remind yourself that bad people deserve to be in prison. It is not your sole responsibility to change his old habits. Allow the state to prosecute him and render judgment based on his acts towards you.


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Save Yourself And Run Away


Unfortunately, many women choose to forgive their partners after they have been molested and abused because they think that life will improve after the latter would apologize. We hate to tell and break it to you, but the truth is that a lot of offenders will never improve their attitude after you have forgiven them. The cycle will keep on running until you choose to runway from the failed relationship or broken marriage. Do not hesitate to leave the other person if it is necessary so that you can save yourself from immense pain and suffering. “It can be difficult to re-establish a healthy routine and empower yourself after a toxic relationship. Fortunately, coming to the realization that you need to let go is one of the most difficult steps.”  As Heather Edwards LMHC, NCC, BCC  explains. Be strong or brave enough to walk away from something that is no longer working. Think of the long-term benefits so that you will have the courage to do it.


Seek For Professional Assistance


As already mentioned above, the bad thing about being abused is that it can affect your mental health. It is the reason why you can see people who become depressed and anxious because of a negative experience that they have. If you do not want to end up like them, it is best if you will take time to seek professional help and support. Search the best therapist, counselor or psychologist who can provide you with the right assistance that you need. Take your time in choosing the best professional to protect your interests. Because “Some individuals think that couples therapy is the answer to domestic violence; however couples therapy is not recommended while the abuse is active.” that is according to Nicole Tammelleo, LCSW-R


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Domestic violence is never okay, regardless of the reason that the offender will give you. Keep in mind that you deserve a happy life – away from someone who does not care for your feelings or emotions. The moment you realize that the other person is violent, be sure to save yourself while you still can. Look for someone who will not hurt you no matter how difficult times get. You are going to achieve the best things in life as long you put your heart and mind into making it happen.